Thinking about doing Porn or other sex work?
When you do porn, the porn stays done, stays on the Net etc. So, don't do it unless you are sure it's the right thing for you.
Sex work without cameras, once it's done, it's done, and if you don't own it, secrets do get out.
STOP!!!! Do you have a good business brain? Can you promote yourself and build fan relationships?
If NO, then, you could have fun and part time money in this business but you will probably NOT build a good full time multi year income.
What does it involve doing?
Whatever you like :-) Commonly :-
Messing around on cam, and in private rooms, being nude, playing with your bits, and, if you want, performing with other girls/guys at levels from messing about to full sex. A lot of people just do this and make a decent living, but for many others, all that time alone can be very dispiriting, especially on slow days. And you do have to push through the slow days.
It can be perfect for part time people trying to make some extra cash and not wanting to jump into the industry proper, but if you are serious about the industry, you really want to do everything else so that you always have fans wanting shows, and so your camming is both fun and profitable. However...
WARNING - Cam shows WILL be recorded! Always remember that if it's viewable on a screen, it's recordable. Some people WILL record your cam shows and some of them WILL upload them to the Internet.
Yes, this is a breach of T&C, (the recording), and yes, it can be against the law, (the uploading), and yes, the police should be sympathetic, BUT there might be very little that can be done about it.
Basic rule - don't do on cam anything you'd be mortified to see online. If you can't make money within your comfort zone, camming isn't for you.
- Amateur Shoots - guys with cameras who like to take photos/videos. Mostly very nice people. They tend to have limited budgets and mainly shoot solo, or, if they can afford it, POV (them having BJ/sex with you).
- Professional Shoots - shoots with people who really know what they are doing. If hardcore, this is proper porn, with other porn girls and studs having sex on camera etc. Great fun, a chance to meet other people in the biz and network. FANTASTIC PR - when it comes out you milk it hard to grow your fan base who will then buy your stuff and cam shows :-)
Your OWN shoots, to sell your own content to fans - direct, your own website, Only Fans, Admire, AW, JFF and many other platforms etc
This is where the real money is made these days. IF you have the work ethic and organisation to pull it off.
Work with other models to make porn, and then you all sell it to your fans - see Content Share but you have to put in the time. A minimum of something (usually selfies) every day, 3-5 clips a week and a full scene every week, but more is better. So, with planning the scenes can all be done in 2-4 days a month.
This is also where you get the PR benefit of doing the pro shoots. They release your scene, and the people who like it come looking for you.
Escorting and Sex Parties.
Escorting - It can be tempting, the money can look good. BUT...Think very carefully. It might be something you can do, or not. But don't do it just for the money - that's a really good way to mess your head. The escorts I know who make it work, they basically like the work. Giving pleasure to clients is something they enjoy doing, and they can glide over the bad days, (there are bad days in all work). If you are looking at escorting purely for fast cash, have your target and then quit. Doing any job you hate is bad for mental health. Doing sex work when you don't want to is really really unhealthy.
Escorts are also very strong willed - they take no shit, and that vibe* minimises nasty incidents. That said, almost all the escorts I know who stayed in the business any length of time, have been robbed, raped or assaulted. You need to have a bouncers mind set - it's going to happen, and when it does it will hurt, but probably not too much (bouncers get thumped, but rarely knifed). What you have to think about is "can you put it behind you when it happens, or does that kind of thing affect you badly"? If the latter, probably don't escort. The police should respond to crimes, but unless there is actual evidence, there's often not much they can do apart from log it as intelligence in case they catch him later and maybe contact you if they want to tie him to older crimes.
*Not about being a hard ass. More about professionalism and confidence. "This is my job, and YOU are going to have your best client experience by letting me do it". Also, sad truth is that a certain type of guy has a nose for weak or nervous girl (and I say girl, they tend to go for younger types) who perhaps is doing this for survival reasons, and to them, he is dangerous. At best - she walks into the room thinking it's about sex, and discovering that it's about him playing power games and making her uncomfortable. Mid rank - he's pushing boundaries, trying for anal, trying to stealth. Higher end, physically nasty shit. My personal opinion - 18-25 year old escorts who don't show their face in ads attract these guys. They read those faceless ads as, "young, inexperienced, insecure in the work, probably not open about it". If that is why you are faceless in ads, you're going to meet the bastards and have some shit dates. If it's not true, take control of the room as soon as you walk in, so he changes his plan to your plan. And enjoy taking his money while denying him the bullying that he intended :-)
Sex Parties - If you like a LOT of sex, one cock after another, these can be great fun and solid bread and butter money.
Most of the legit party organisers operate out of swingers clubs or private homes and will let you come and see one to get a feel for whether or not you want to play. Smaller parties take place in hotel rooms and rented apartments.
Parties tend to be well organised, with someone as security and organisers have zero tolerance of idiots, but there are always new people popping up who don't know what they are doing, so be alert.
Some girls organise their own to cut out the middle man, but it's harder than it looks. Don't try it until you have plenty of experience.
It's hard to say how much you can make, or how you'll make it, and to an extent it depends on your looks, attitude and what you find you enjoy doing. For example, if you hate solo camming you won't make loads of money on cam and will need to concentrate on shoots and content (and selling it) or working with cam partners. However if you do a mix of camming, porn, and content then once you have built a fan base, you should be a able to make a decent income for some years. But you are unlikely to get rich and if you have a potential "proper" career option, that is likely to be the better long term financial choice.
After 6 months treating the business as a properly full time one, (without escorting or sex parties), if it's working for you, you should be grossing £500 a week, and after a year £500-£1000. How much you actually make in profit depends on your cost controls. Ploughing it all into a dungeon and fetish gear will reduce it. "An everyday MILF" who just buys a basic lighting rig and wears her own clothes, will save most of it.
But there is a LOT of competition - I've known plenty of hot girls who tried to do everything right but, after an initial flurry of shoot bookings, it dried up. They couldn't build a fan base to get camming for or selling content to. Be careful, be organised.
I want to be an adult/porn model, how do I start?
My best advice - Don't.
If you want to be a "proper" actress, singer, WAG, work in schools, the police etc, Don't do adult.
It's not glamour, frocks, riches, red carpets and C lists celebs, but hard work needing an organised attitude, and, for hardcore porn work, a lust for the simple physical enjoyment of fucking, fucking anyone, anywhere, and in the most awkward positions.
You MUST BE A GENUINE EXHIBITIONIST, who loves the fact that that people will be able to watch you fucking. For the fetish side, it's also about control over your body, testing yourself and self expression. And as to riches, there are none. Some well organised girls make a decent living from it, but most models do this part time around their day job. It's about fun, lifestyle and sexuality and getting into it for the money would be a mistake.
I'll repeat that - if money is your motivation and you are not turned on by the idea of the work itself then getting into this can really mess you up. Don't.
Hopefully I've put 9 out of 10 you off. But if you still want to do it....
GET SOME DECENT PORTFOLIO PICS - nice, well lit, images of you. Specifically, a smiling head shot, full frontal and side nudes. Any other pics of your self that you like and show your modelling skills. And for GUYS, you need BG action pics if you are claiming to be a stud - pics showing your face and her face, and your cock in her pussy or mouth.
You must be 18+, and, (to prove your age and ID for record keeping purposes) have PASSPORT and DRIVING LICENCE (provisional is fine), or one of those and a BIRTH CERTIFICATE.
- Girls and couples - feel free to ask me anything.
- Males - You need to PROVE your ability with a shoot before anyone will take you at all seriously. To prove your ability you'll need to book a location - £80-£100, hire a cameraman (me - £150, plus fuel) and a girl for a BG scene - £350, more if you want a well known one, plus her travel if not local. And I can tell you now, it's 50:50 that you can get hard and stay hard. Also,this won't get you professional work. It might get you into the content share circuit, and from there, maybe 1 guy a year starts to get hired for pro shoots. If you want to prove yourself, contact me. But have the attitude that it's "make a porno" on your bucket list, and that anything more is just bunce.
Ethics, Morals and Money in Porn
Porn people tend to be libertarian - non judgemental, do what you wanna do.
But that only works if everyone is fully informed. Problems arise when people have different ideas and didn't ask the right questions or communicate them effectively.
- "The photographer touched me to open my legs wider". Some girls wouldn't bat an eye, for others that's an assault.
- "The photographer pressured me for a BJ, said all the girls do it, but it was just a solo shoot I was booked for". Some girls would shrug it off or tell him to "Fuck Off", some be offended, some would do it, some would bite, hard. FYI it is NEVER part of the shoot to provide sexual services over and above those that have been agreed as part of the shoot. Guys will ask - they're guys after all - but a firm NO! usually suffices.
How to deal with these issues - set rules? play by ear? etc :-
Most girls play it by ear, and are quite happy to simply reject any unwanted advances.
Some girls will have rules that they email to the photographer during the process of making the arrangements. :-
- A No Touching rule is quite common, esp for glamour and art nude levels, - "you do not touch me without permission, you ask me to move or you ask if you can touch my leg / whatever to move it. I am your model, not your toy". As a stud, I've never had a photographer feel he needs to touch me to get me in the right position / erect. Though if one did, it wouldn't bother me, UNLESS I thought he was doing it to get off on it. In which case I'd politely tell him to back off.
- A "DO NOT ASK for HJ/BJ/Interaction on solo shoots" rule is an option - it will cost you bookings, but they're not the bookings you want, so who cares. (Most porn girls don't have a rule about asking, they just say NO when asked, so they get the shoot, and get paid, which is the main thing. But if you don't want to be asked, and are willing to risk the shoot, make it a rule and tell them in advance).
- A "please confirm that this is NOT for ABC site/person/company, or to be sold to them" line can deal with issues related to particular people or companies. Again, if the shoot is for them, you'll lose the work, but you don't want the work, so that's fine. NOTE - you should ask to see the model release in advance and make sure that includes a line to the effect that "is not for, and will not be sold or licenced to ABC..."
Some girls rules will vary according to the level of the shoot - a full sex porn girl if booked for art nude might be strictly "No Touching", but if the guy asks for a BJ on set, say "Yes, for my BJ shoot fee, an extra X". These girls quite rightly want to get properly paid for their work. It's all about your personal combination of morals/ethics/and money.
Model Releases and why they matter
Most producers/photographers will ask you to sign a model release because most of the clients - publications, websites etc - will not pay them unless they provide it.
This will allow them to publish the work in accordance with the release. If you don't like what they do with it, tough.
Be aware that it will generally allow them to do anything they like with the material, including multiples sites, free sites, tube sites, sales to third parties etc.
It is NOT a legal requirement that such a release be signed, but if you don't, they can still pretty much do what they like with the content because you were presenting as a model for hire (as opposed to a GF whose nudes become revenge porn if shared).
YOUR OWN SHOOTS & CONTENT SHARE - ALWAYS get releases.
The platforms will either want to see them before you upload, or may audit you at any time. If they find during an audit that you don't have them, they could simply boot you off the platform and kill your income.
Example - you and your BF make home movies for your channel. You don't do the paperwork. You split up. A year later his boss finds out and, in order to avoid being sacked, he claims they should never have been put up there. He makes a "no permission" complaint, and the platform thinks, "this is possibly revenge porn". They ask you for the releases. You don't have them. Your bad planning is now potentially going to drag them into court as witnesses, and have the authorities audit THEM. More expensive for them than whatever they earned from your stuff. So, "your''re fired!".
Beware Private Shoots
Never do "for private only" anything that you would be unhappy to see published. Always assume that they might be published and limit yourself accordingly.
It all comes down to evidence. As a model, if you go to the court 5,10,15 years from now and argue that "this particular shoot was not for publication", you will be expected to provide solid evidence. A document, signed by the photographer, stating that the work is not for publication. Read that again - it's not up to him to prove that he has the rights to publish - that's taken as a given if the pics show a person who clearly know that they are being photographed - it's up to you to prove that he doesn't have such rights. Ask yourself - will you get such a document signed, and are so good at keeping paperwork that you'll still have in 5,10,15 years time?
Also, what happens if they are published? The damage is done. They can't be unpublished. All that a court can grant you is damages, which might be very low, and if large, impossible to collect if the guy has little / no money. Also, going to court will cost you money - hundreds, maybe thousands, and if you're not willing to pay, the guy gets away with it.
I didn't give permission for it to go on ABC site
Actually, if you signed a release, you probably did. Most releases, however worded, basically say "can be used anywhere, anytime, anyplace, resale to anyone for any use etc".
If you didn't sign a release, then you probably did as well, IF you are presenting as a model for hire - see Private shoots above.
If you really want to nail down where material can go, you need to provide your own release, on a per shoot basis, where the photographer fills in, in detail, where the material will be used, and includes a line like "for any other publication, web site or sale to third party, model's permission must be obtained in writing". Be aware that no commercially minded adult
photographer/producer is ever likely to agree to such terms, (because while they might know the INITIAL outlet, they will want other sales, plus the right to resell unencumbered to third parties with groups of sites), so such a stance will cost you work.
What should I charge for shoots?
It really is very hard to give detailed numbers, esp at the softer rates.
The rates below are what attractive girls aged 18-30 and size 8-12 should find reasonable. Older models, bigger models, (esp if outside London/SE) tend to have to accept the lower end of these numbers, or even a bit below. But not so far below as it's taking the piss.
Stipulating Minimum Rates
Don't put your rates in any listings, (because then your minimum also becomes your de facto maximum)
Very much depends on the model. A plus size MILF in the North might only get £30 an hour for fingering and toys, but a girl in London with a great figure, great face and who knows how to pose and give art nude photographers what they need, £80 an hour, with a minimum booking for 4 hours.
Fetish and BDSM
Difficult to say, but for shoots which are not too painful, and which will not leave marks, and do not involve any sexual contact, £100 - £200 is typical. Shoots where bruising is expected pay £500-£800, but note that you can't do other work until healed.
HOWEVER, whether you are asked to be sub or dom, if you are doing Impact Play (canes, spanks, slaps, paddles, basically ANY type of hitting people) make sure you know how to be safe.
DO NOT SUB to someone who cannot show you that they know what they are doing. You could get badly hurt. BDSM Impact Play Safe Zones
DO NOT DOM until you have been trained by an experienced person. A DOM can train you on all things, but an experienced SUB can train you on the use of potentially dangerous things like whips, canes and paddles.
In the UK you CANNOT CONSENT to actual bodily harm, so if harmed, you can go to the police, and if you harm someone, even if they asked you to. Even if they PAID you to and signed consent forms, they can also go to the police, (or their wife might call the police when she sees the damage....).
Also - really just as a heads up, esp for anyone starting out as a Dom and possibly thinking about marketing, don't mix Dom with Therapy unless you ARE a Therapist. As a Dom, your clients should KNOW they want to be SUB and UNDERSTAND themselves well enough to know why. If you think they need therapy, and you can't provide that properly, send them to someone who can.
- Varies, but a "fair days pay for a fair days work" should be on the table.
- The lowest acceptable rate for most models is "approx 1- 2 hours mainly solo with HJ/BJ or POV" for which many amateurs and semi professionals offer around £150 - £200. Some models treat this as bread and butter work, esp if they can work from home and book in 1-2 jobs a day. Others avoid it, or insist on it being local to them.
- Serious amateur style and smaller scale producers usually offer £300-400 for full sex with penetration, and that will usually involve whatever can be filmed in 2-3 hours. (Typically a BG scene and some solo or silly fetish or BJ with faked CIM. At £500, expect 2 hardcore BG scenes, and a longer time frame). The producers at this level tend not to be fussy, and are just seeking girls to fill quota. If they want YOU they will usually offer more. Travel - if they want you to travel, ask for travel money.
- If you are "pornstar" material though, you will be wanting to very quickly step up to the bigger companies, with more money to spend, and, importantly, too many other overheads to risk wasting money with a "no show" who got a better offer. Expect £400+ plus travel for simple BG hardcore work for a major production company, or £550-700+ for a day booking (2-3 scenes).
- You can try and charge more, provided you accept that it will limit the work you get. To get away with this you need to be drop dead gorgeous, and of the view that you only want to do occasional shoots for the biggest companies. Your hardcore porn is more about fun/fan base than day to day living.
How to spot a genuine photographer/producer
Always tricky until you start a two way conversation, at which point the real guy will make it very clear what levels they want, and what money they are offering, even if dates and locations won't be known until later, (esp if it's a matter of juggling diaries, or he's going to be travelling to you and needs to see when he can schedule it).
In general most girls will want to be sure it's all real if they will need to travel any distance. You can check this by asking for a deposit (you won't normally get one, unless you need to fly), or asking other performers
Where girls have doubts they usually agree to a no deposit shoot if the shoot will be local to them, so they're not out of pocket if it goes tits up.
Give marks for guys whose initial contact ticks the following boxes, (and if it doesn't, does so in businesslike discussion/emails/PM's once initial contact has been made) :-
- Is clear about levels - it's a solo shoot, it's a BJ shoot etc. Additional info "cosplay" or "CP will leave bruises" is extra good. IMPORTANT - some people will be very detailed in their requirements. Make sure YOU follow them for any booking you take. E.G If a photographer says "don't change your hair colour/style" then don't. If he has been asked to commission blondes and you go red the week before, when you turn up he'll probably send you home, without paying you or covering your expenses.
- Has a listing here, or elsewhere, with pictures of multiple models. So he is clearly used to shooting and thus paying girls.
- Has good positive comments
- Indicates his budget or asks for your rate for the job. (Note, if he hasn't given a location just quote him a X plus travel. If shoot duration is unclear, say "assuming 3 hours total, X plus travel".
- Includes an idea of dates / locations
Take away marks for guys who :-
- Just say "wat r ur rates?" with no indication of levels. Just respond "tell me what you want to shoot".
- Have no examples of their work.
Be VERY WARY of guys, who, once you start discussing a shoot:-
- Who engage in "level creep" - the booking is for a solo but then they start asking about BJ or whatever. These guys are usually timewasters - the ones who want a solo then BJ either ask up front, or wait until the shoot and push their luck. The guys who do "level creep" are just feeding the fantasy. As soon as this happens tell them you want them to book a studio so that you can confirm the booking has been made.
- Who want to be your friend. Maybe they will become your friend, but that is something to discover (or not) when you meet in person. Until then, they should be professional in attitude.
As a model, just don't cancel with less than one weeks notice. Whatever reason you give it won't be believed and word will get round that you are unreliable.
If photographers cancel at less than one weeks notice, IMO they should pay half the agreed fee, plus any out of pocket expenses (tickets already purchased etc, have a receipt), up to a cut off of £150.
The Dark(ish) Side - idiots, cheapskates, Guys With Cameras, Managers, Cons and Scams
- Idiots - timewasters, fools and people who seem to be dodgy.
- Cheapskates - want a lot for very little. Tell them no.
- GWC's - guys who like to take pics, or , more commonly, film themselves having sex, but who can't show you any work (because it's for their private collection, or "the web site is under development"). Some models love this work and do very well from it, but others avoid it and have a strict "for publication only" rule. Your choice. If you don't want GWC's, state so clearly in your Model Listing text, something like "all photographers/producers must be able to provide published work references - magazines, websites etc,".
- Managers - there are guys out there who will promise to manage you in return for a slice of all your income - clips, camming, bookings etc. These relationships usually end badly, esp if you are good at making money, because pretty soon it's "why am I giving you so much money?" My advice - avoid.
Going to a shoot can be a risky thing - meeting someone you don't know, possibly alone.
Trust your gut instinct
If it's telling you not to take the job, DON'T.
If you've arrived somewhere and you are getting dodgy vibes, leave. Put it down to experience.
Have a Car
If you have driven to the location you can leave whenever you like. If you got collected from a station and are now in some soulless suburb,or, worse still, the countryside, you can't.
Have escape money
If you've got cash you can get home.
All good photographers/producers will allow a chaperone, and while asking them to stay out of the room/studio they can usually be within earshot. Worst case - nearby cafe.
Professional Studios are obviously much safer than hotels and houses.
If you work from home, think about rigging up a security camera to monitor the room(s) you shoot in.
REPORT bad experiences
To us, and also Ugly Mugs https://twitter.com/NationalUglyMug and perhaps the police.
https://www.clienteye.app/ is getting a lot of positive attention - it's in effect a shared database of idiots you don't want to deal with.
GET EVERYTHING IN WRITING.
Once you think you know what the terms are, send the photographer an email asking them to confirm. This means that if they change things on the day, you can say "hold on....." and then no, or "extra dosh".
I once made £350 for nothing because when I arrived the producer said "Why are you here? You're needed Friday". I produced the email, which said "Wednesday". Paid in full, sent home. (The Friday was impossible for me, otherwise I'd have been OK with changing round.)
So, just to confirm, shoot is 2pm, Wednesday 19th June.
Location - Holiday Inn Inverness
I should call you when I get to the hotel. Your number is 0111111111
Shoot is a Certed POV BG scene with you as the stud, plus a toys scene.
Model Release to be signed, Passport and Driving Licence as ID's.
Shoot finishes at 5pm.
Terms - £350, plus rail fare up to £30, cash on the day."
Now, if he thinks anything different, he needs to come back and say so, such as "no, we start at 12 , not 2".
You then send the updated version.
This protects you, and it also comes across as really really professional :-)
Health and Safety
Porn is a risky activity - it's fucking strangers :-) Be safe!
Letters (or PDF's) that have the results of your sexual health screen.
Safety in Spanking/CP and hard BDSM/Fetish
If this isn't a scene you are personally into, but will consider for shoots, be warned.
I know too many models who have said yes to this type of work, and then been hurt/bruised much more badly than they expected. The work can pay very well, but if you do get bruised, you need to take time off.
My advice is to ask the following questions:-
- Will it hurt?
- Will it bruise?
- Will it bleed? (Do not do this unless it is your lifestyle. Blood is a seriously dangerous bodily fluid, and open wounds provide routes for infection)
- Do you respect safe words? usual system is Green, Amber, Red, and generally if you say RED, shoots over. Photographers should be backing off at Amber.
Diet and Fitness
Your body is biology - understand it can you can look good and be healthy.
Best Diet is simple - good food made from scratch ingredients (no artificial crap to prolong shelf life or enhance mouth feel - yes, that's a thing). Combine this with a decent fitness regime - light weights and lots of cardio is best for staying trim. Cardio can be running, cycling or swimming. If swimming, build up to a mile 3-4 times a week. It will take about 2 months from a "fucked after one length", and soon you'll be doing a mile in 40-45mins.
Drink and Pies and Pizzas. In moderation as a treat, fine. If too much, cut them out. But you know that.
Crash Diets are BAD NEWS. They work in the short term BUT this is telling your body that you live in an area that suffers from famines. So when the food returns, the body sets more aside for the next famine. This is why Dieting Makes You Fat.
It's not about weight, it's about shape. Fat tissue weighs less than muscle, if you convert flab to trim muscle your weight might even go up, but your SHAPE will get trimmer.
To get your best shape you need to combine a good diet with plenty of exercise. Your body needs to learn that there is always plenty of food, but that what it needs is to be fit. Good news - exercise helps control appetite.
There are no shortcuts. Sorry.